How I Stay Inspired and Motivated Through Motherhood (Even on the Messy Mum Days)

Let’s be real: motherhood is beautiful… but it’s also a lot. Some days I feel like I’m totally smashing it, and other days I’m just trying to make it to bedtime without crying into the tea towel drawer

Over time, I’ve realised that if I don’t intentionally do little things to keep myself inspired and motivated, I start to lose touch with myself. And when I’m running on empty, everything feels harder, for me and the kids.

Me at the beach with my kids in the background

So I’ve started building in small habits that help me feel more like me, not just “Mum.” Nothing over the top. Just simple things that give me a boost and remind me that I matter too.

Here’s what’s been helping lately:

💿 1. Starting the Morning with Music

Before the chaos starts, breakfast spills, lost shoes, someone screaming because their banana broke, I try to put on some music. It sets the tone for the day. Sometimes it’s chill and slow, sometimes it’s full-blown dance party vibes (yes, in the kitchen, yes, in PJs).

It honestly shifts my mood instantly. A little reminder that the day belongs to me too, not just the never ending to-do list.

📺 2. YouTube and Podcasts > TV Background Noise

When I get a bit of time to myself (nap time, after bedtime, or even while folding laundry), I try not to just zone out in front of the TV. Don’t get me wrong, TV has its place. But lately, I’ve been reaching for my favourite YouTubers or podcasts instead.

There’s something about hearing other women talk about their lives, creativity, motherhood, goals, that just lifts me. Whether it’s a vlogger who feels like a friend, or a podcast host dropping gems while I’m doing dishes, it keeps me feeling connected and inspired.

🖼️ 3. A Picture of Little Me

This one’s a bit sentimental, but I love it, I keep a photo of little me on my dresser.

It’s a reminder of who I’ve always been. That little girl had dreams, imagination, a big heart, and she had no idea how strong she’d become. When I’m having a rough day, looking at her helps me soften. It reminds me that I’m still that girl deep down. I’m doing this for her too.

🎨 4. Finding a Creative Outlet

This one has been a game-changer.

Whether it’s painting, drawing, journaling, writing poetry, making playlists, trying out digital design, or just colouring in a relaxing colouring book with some fancy felt tips (my husbands personal favourite), creativity heals. It doesn’t have to be anything polished or “productive.” It just has to make your heart feel a little lighter.

Creating with your heart gives your mind space to breathe. Even 10 quiet minutes spent doing something creative can make the day feel less heavy. It’s a way of expressing yourself when words sometimes fall short, and it reminds you that you’re more than just the roles you play.

You’re still you; creative, curious, capable.

⏱️ 5. Tiny Pockets of “Me” Time

Some days I only get five minutes. But I take them. And I make sure It's AWAY from my phone!

Sometimes I just breathe, sip my tea while it’s still warm, or jot a quick note in my journal. Other times I’ll just sit in silence and let my brain relax for a quiet moment.

Even a few minutes can make a difference. It’s not about escaping motherhood. It’s about remembering I’m still a person within it.

👯‍♀️ 6. Your Circle Matters

Speaking as someone who took a long time to find her circle... Motherhood can feel lonely sometimes, even when you’re constantly surrounded by little humans. That’s why having the right people around you is so important.

It’s not just about having someone to vent to (though that helps!). It’s about building a circle of people who get it, who inspire you, uplift you, and remind you of your strength when you’re running low on it yourself.

Whether it’s texting a fellow mum, chatting in a group chat, or reacting to a relatable Instagram story, those small connections matter. But even more important is making sure the people you let into your space are ones who truly have your back. The ones who cheer you on, speak life into your dreams, and celebrate you even in your smallest wins.

Choose your circle like your peace depends on it, because honestly, it does.

Just a Little Reminder

You’re not “just” a mum. You’re you. And you deserve to feel good, inspired, and seen, even in the middle of the mess.

So tomorrow morning, put on that playlist. Watch that YouTuber who makes you laugh. Listen to that podcast that makes you dream. Colour something beautiful just because it feels good. And look at that picture of little you. She’d be so proud of how far you’ve come.

You’re doing amazing—even if it doesn’t always feel like it. 💛